• Steven Smilanich

Precautionary contradictions for contemporary LGBTQ+ culture

Thesis: The most feminine person is a woman, and the most masculine person is a man. We are not meant to be a single sex species; the duality of the sexes is the beauty of life.

President Gordon B. Hinckley taught:

“In His grand design, when God first created man, He created a duality of the sexes. The ennobling expression of that duality is found in marriage. One individual is complementary to the other. As Paul stated, “Neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord” (1 Cor. 11:11).

There is no other arrangement that meets the divine purposes of the Almighty. Man and woman are His creations. Their duality is His design. Their complementary relationships and functions are fundamental to His purposes. One is incomplete without the other.”

In the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, we maintain the idea that the child who is born male was likewise male in the premortal world where he was a spirit but now resides in a small vessel which is male. And similarly, the child born female was a female spirit also in the premortal world. As The Family: A Proclamation to the World states:

"ALL HUMAN BEINGS—male and female—are created in the image of God. Each is a beloved spirit son or daughter of heavenly parents, and, as such, each has a divine nature and destiny. Gender is an essential characteristic of individual premortal, mortal, and eternal identity and purpose."

And so we understand that the child that was born male but makes himself look female here and now will be resurrected again as a male. A man has an "eternal identity and purpose" that he must maintain. Because if there is God, then he has an eternal responsibility to fulfill as a man and must say as Christ did to the Father of us all in Gethsemane, "not my will but thine be done." And the same becomes of the child born female but makes herself appear male, she will be resurrected as female. For it was your birth sex which is your gender which is your trueself which was with you far into the premortal life and beyond.

It is not good for man to be alone, so he has woman. So also it is not good for woman to be alone, so she has man. They were created for each other. We are not meant to be a single sex species; the duality of the sexes is the beauty of life.

When an industrial revolution occurred in the 1800s, there were more jobs available to the masses than ever before. Many companies began to hire women, mostly in the clothing industry. Many things invented were directed towards women, including the sewing machine and improvements in washing clothes. Because of these things, many women found they had more power in society besides just raising the future generation. Many women looked towards many issues in their day, including the drunkenness of some men, slavery, and women's rights.

They advocated for pure equality; fighting long and hard to own land, vote, have higher pay and education. They worked to be at the same level as men in society. The country was making some progress for a while. All these ideals that took place during the first and even the second wave feminism I support fully.

Unfortunately, things turned for the worst as we transitioned from first through second and into third-wave feminism. Whereas feminism began as a way for women to become equal to men, there were things introduced into this third wave the idea of individualism. As if to say that women no longer need men. They say they are strong and independent and need no man. There is nothing wrong with being "strong"; it's just the "independent" part and the way it is used that bothers me. I would say to those women, "have you ever stopped to consider that there is a man out there who needs you?"

Individualism is nothing new to the 21st century—or I guess we should call it radical individualism—there were many even during the first wave feminism. It has only become most prominent in the third wave starting in the 1970s and fully manifesting in the 90s. Some women of this wave are self-centered and care not for their male counterparts. They seem to mock the ideas of any rights for men. Perhaps what we need now is not feminism but gender-equalitism.

Gender equality is still needed as women are even sexually abused in schools and workplaces; this needs to be stopped. The #MeToo movement is a great way to make people aware of these things. However, we should also note the few men who are sexually abused.

I have come to the idea that no single person, man or woman, is entirely 100% independent; they each need to depend on each other to survive. Now, of course, there must be some level of independence, 100% dependence would just be an infant, I would say that it is more like 50-50. Nevertheless, there is still a great need to depend on the opposite sex.

For this reason, Paul wrote, "Neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man in the Lord." We are incomplete without each other. In some eastern cultures, the moon is female, and the sun is male, and when they make an eclipse, they symbolize the perfect being. A man being without a woman even if he is with another man is nothing because he is without a woman.

With such a rise to women's rights, many women thought they did not need men any longer; they felt that man was the symbol of their oppression and sought to distance themselves from men. So there was a rise in lesbianism as women turned toward other women. Likewise, also, there was a rise in gay men who sought comfort with other men. Some because they felt abandoned by women. And some women today turn to lesbianism because they think they cannot trust men because of abuse or other reasons. Homosexuality can often come about because one sex becomes distrustful of the other.

It is a fact that gay men are not excused from being misogynistic. There are reported cases of gay men being rude to women, and perhaps it is the same sometimes the other way around with lesbians being disrespectful to men. Now, of course, most homosexuals are not outright sexist or rude in any way. They can be very nice people, but I wonder if actively participating in homosexual practices itself is being subconsciously sexist as it denies the other sex their importance.

Each sex has their own strengths that the other sex needs to compensate for their weaknesses and survive. Women have a vital and essential role in the life of a man and vice versa. Men have broader shoulders and thicker bones, which allows them to do the heavy lifting around the house and are bigger risk-takers. Women have superior smell, taste, hearing, and can see more vibrant colors than their male counterparts. I definitely need a woman to tell me when my breath doesn't smell too great. In general, a woman's body has allowed her to be a better caretaker of children with breastfeeding and larger hips for childbearing and holding children. She is more emotional and careful in her decisions as for most of history her decisions have been based on raising children.

There are also many similarities between the sexes. It's not like we are comparing a snake to a giraffe. Men and Women are equal in intelligence and leadership skills, despite men having larger brains than women. Brain size doesn't mean anything here. Both men and women have different types of intelligence, but both are very intelligent.

God has created not one sex but two sexes to teach an important lesson in learning to rely on another and be less selfish. A man is best suited to be a man, and a woman is best suited to be a woman for a divine purpose to be best suited for each other.

One may very well ask why there is even something as homosexuality, or transsexuality, to begin with. I have not read anything about how a man must be rough and tough to be a man. I don't see any problem with a flamboyant man who enjoys knitting as long as he remembers he is a man. Neither do I see problems with a woman who enjoys guns and wants to join the military as long as she remembers that she is a woman. Even so, why does the feeling exist inside some people to turn towards their own sex as opposed to the opposite?

We all have weaknesses that can be made into strengths or are strengths themselves when under control and used in the right ways. Homosexuality perhaps enables a man to relate to a woman more quickly than a straight man. I watched a funny video on YouTube once where it showed gay men talking about how they would make far better husbands for straight men's wives than the straight men. I think there could be some truth in that. The gay men talk about taking the women dancing and to the opera and doing many other things that women enjoy. Things that straight men typically don’t enjoy doing, like shopping for clothes.

I also wonder if gay men and women are more natural at merely loving another person, man or woman, sexual or nonsexual, than a heterosexual person. Edward O. Wilson wrote, "Homosexuality may give advantages to the group (the human family) by special talents (and) unusual qualities of personality, …" Many studies show that gay males indeed have a higher compassion level than most straight males. Just note that this compassion towards others needs to be bridled when it comes to other males and most females. James O'Keefe, in a TedTalk, taught, "If all males where gay then that would be a problem, but if all males were warriors we would always be at war." I understand that gay men are particularly good at taking care of their nieces and nephews, and perhaps someday their own children.

And I am sure that there are also many other ways for a man or woman who is homosexual to turn this thing they have into a mighty strength. Whatever sexual feelings a person has is all the same, it can be a great strength but can be very destructive if not controlled. Everything a person has can be used for all humanity's good, but first, that person must come out.

We all have a place in the choir. Choir’s are divided down the middle of men and women so as to give better clarity to the different voices. They are lined up, from left to right, the highest voices to the lowest voices. Some are found in the middle where a man and woman may meet and sing a similar tone, yet they are still on their respective sides. We need men who sing high and men who sing low, women who sing low and sing high.

Coming out so that one can be put in the right place in the choir is never easy, it is often the most terrifying thing a person can do. They who are framed in corners want release, but they fear bringing the monster out with them. Will the monster only lay waste to the land, or would many mock the monster and shame the owner? Covering their face with their hands, they perceive that they must let it out but need an escape plan if things go wrong. The darkness clouds their judgment. Let the person come out of the closet and embrace the monster. Tame the monster so that it will not lay waste to a beautiful valley. Keep the monster close and look up to know that they below cannot hurt you. They will not be able to take the monster and bring it to the ax and you to the lake to drown. See that those flowers grow strong.

Compare that then to a person's own dilemma when they see that they must live to be free. Tame the monster so that it will not confuse your identity. Man becomes softer, and woman becomes tougher, yet do not forget that which makes you is you. They who mock you shall mourn for they are fools.

Many, when they come out, unfortunately come out prideful and arrogant. Whenever I hear about Pride Week, I just think of Ezra Taft Benson's talk "Beware of Pride" in which he says:

"The central feature of pride is enmity—enmity toward God and enmity toward our fellowmen. Enmity means 'hatred toward, hostility to, or a state of opposition.' It is the power by which Satan wishes to reign over us.

"Pride is essentially competitive in nature. We pit our will against God's. When we direct our pride toward God, it is in the spirit of 'my will and not thine be done.' As Paul said, they 'seek their own, not the things which are Jesus Christ's.' (Philip. 2:21.)

"Our will in competition to God's will allows desires, appetites, and passions to go unbridled. (See Alma 38:12; 3 Ne. 12:30.)

"The proud cannot accept the authority of God giving direction to their lives. (See Hel. 12:6.) They pit their perceptions of truth against God's great knowledge, their abilities versus God's priesthood power, their accomplishments against His mighty works.

"Our enmity toward God takes on many labels, such as rebellion, hard-heartedness, stiff-neckedness, unrepentant, puffed up, easily offended, and sign seekers. The proud wish God would agree with them. They aren't interested in changing their opinions to agree with God's.

"Another major portion of this very prevalent sin of pride is enmity toward our fellowmen. We are tempted daily to elevate ourselves above others and diminish them. (See Hel. 6:17; D&C 58:41.)

"The proud make every man their adversary by pitting their intellects, opinions, works, wealth, talents, or any other worldly measuring device against others. In the words of C. S. Lewis: 'Pride gets no pleasure out of having something, only out of having more of it than the next man. … It is the comparison that makes you proud: the pleasure of being above the rest. Once the element of competition has gone, pride has gone.' (Mere Christianity, New York: Macmillan, 1952, pp. 109–10.)"

Pride is one of the seven deadly sins; some might even say that it is the worst of all sins. And yet, somehow, we as a society have come to the point where we have named an entire month after it. It gives me the false impression that LGBTQ+ people want me to know how much they are living for exclusively themselves and no one else.

And so what of being transgender, or being trans-anything. A man once walked into a plastic surgeon's office claiming that something was wrong with his body, he was born with two legs, but he identifies as a cripple. He asks to have his legs cut off because he thinks he was meant to be born without them. Now, as far as I know, this has never happened. No one has ever wished to be parted from a leg or an arm, so why do we have people who are desirous to part with body parts that are far more important and sacred than limbs simply because they feel they were not meant to be born with them.

Except, hang on, having the desire to remove a limb or any body part is a real condition that a rare number of people have called BIID - Body Integrity Identity Disorder. Meet Nick O'Hallaron; he is a man living in Edinburgh, Scotland. He has an itch on his right leg that tells him that that leg is not meant to be there. He bends the leg backward in his pants and walks around with a prosthetic leg to ease the itch. He fully believes that his right leg is not his own. Psychologists and scientists of all kinds are generally confused and fascinated by this mental disorder. Nick knows that it is a disorder and knows that it is not right to want to have his leg removed, but he sees no other way of curing the itch unless the leg is removed. Most who have BIID know their desire to remove a part of their body is wrong and unethical. Many give in to the temptation and option to remove their part. They say they feel happier when the part is removed, but a small portion of them wish they could have held on just a bit longer for a ready cure.

It is generally understood that such a condition like BIID is not to be celebrated. It is almost like a step below suicidal depression (the desire to have a body no longer but towards only one part of the body). Depression is acknowledged by all to be a severe problem. And yet when a young boy or girl announces that they want to be the opposite sex and chop off their genitals and breasts, they are congratulated and applauded as some kind of saint. And we get a man in the USA who decides to change his sex and is awarded "woman of the year" for his supposed bravery. Just think of all the real women who could have won that award for actually doing something noble. But apparently, now the title of 'woman' has become so irrelevant as many believe it is only a social construct that a man may become if he so chooses. To these, all a man has to do now to win an award primarily made for women is to put on a dress and makeup and call himself a woman. Is nothing sacred to these people?

If such praise is to be our attitude towards those who would chop off their own genitals and breasts, why are we not also praising those who would chop off their own legs? Where are the media and the books and the movies and the tv shows that honor those who would pluck out their own eyes and chop off their arms or take their own lives? Why would we not praise those who do not want to be themselves? Why do we not honor those who desire not to abide by the laws? Why even enforce laws if we should praise anyone who just wants to be unique and be anything and anyone? Should we let the rapist be a rapist and the murderer a murderer if they tell us that they are just who they know themselves to be and we should not judge them?

It is ultimatly impossible to change sex just because of an inner desire. One would have to swap bodies entirely with someone of the opposite sex. At where the technology currently is, we cannot do brain transplants. Our bodies are simply too complicated for such a procedure. Transgender men cannot donate to sperm banks, and transgender women cannot become pregnant. There are accounts of transgender people having children, but this is only due to keeping their original sex organs.

Reports have come about of women having uterus transplants so that women who were born without them could have children. No doubt there will be some transgender women who would want this operation. However, when the time comes that there is such a thing, it won't be possible; the male body would not be able to handle it as easily as those born females. The odds of the child surviving (if there even can be a child) would be zero. Giving birth is something inherently female and males naturally would not be able to handle the intense pressure and pain required to give birth.

Rachel Dolezal is an interesting case as she did not come out as saying she is transgender but transracial. She was born white but felt more like a black person, so she changed her skin color and name to resemble someone of African descent more closely. "The idea of race is a lie," she says. Well, tell that to your genes in which there is no connection to Africa. Sure it is theorized that we as a species may have come from Africa, as some say, but there was a separation of one group out of Africa, leaving the people who would develop dark skin behind to develop white skin. Rachel Dolezal cannot trace her DNA back to that dark skin group that stayed in Africa no matter what.

Likewise, a transgender person or non-binary gender person of any kind may say, "The idea of gender is a lie!" Tell that to your chromosomes in which there is no connection to the opposite sex. Sure we as a species may have all originated as a female in our mother's womb, but at some point, a Y chromosome from the father entered into a fetus and a child separated from the female to become male. If you are XY then you are a male, and if you are female you are XX. What is the point of fighting against nature? There may be some rare cases of children born with more than two chromosomes, but they still receive a sex at birth that is unchangeable though they are unfortunately often rendered sterile. The combination of one X and one Y chromosome will always result in a male. The chopping off of one body part and putting on a fake doesn't change anything; neither does hormone therapy; you can't change your chromosomes. Since when has gender been reduced to just something we feel, and anything can be instead of something of unique and sacred significance. You may look and sound like the opposite sex on the outside, but you are still the same sex as when you were born on the inside.

So what of a child who is born intersex? I once heard a story about a couple who had that, so they prayed to their God, and they felt that the child was female. I would say that it should be taken up with God and the doctor. But in the case that one does not pray to God, then lay out a series of stereotypical male and female toys and let the child choose; if the child chooses a male toy then the baby is male, and if female then female. BBC did this same experiment with monkeys in which the boy monkeys hardly touched the dolls but took the trucks. The girls showed no interest in the trucks whatsoever but took care of the dolls.

But not just the type of toys played with should be looked at; the manner of being played with should be considered. For that one occasion, when a male child picks up a female toy, he plays with it in a masculine way instead of a feminine way. When I was a child, I would play with barbies from time to time, but it wasn't to play with them as a little girl would. I would use barbies like they were action figures. There was a time when one of my friends and I tied a barbie to a treadmill and then ran it to pop off the barbies' head, that is the least feminine thing anyone can do with a barbie. I'm not suggesting that popping barbies heads off via a treadmill is masculine, but even so, I don't think a girl would ever play with barbies like the way I did. When it came to a dollhouse, I didn't play house with a mommy and a daddy taking care of kids; I picked up a movie camera and made a movie that featured a baby Harry Potter taking down an adult Voldemort.

While watching my three-year-old niece play with my HotWheels, I noticed that she wasn't bashing them together as I would, but instead, she plays with them as if they were regular people or as if there were people in the cars on a daily drive. Young girls tend to play with things that have faces wherein they exercise their maternal instincts. I suspect my niece's love of cars stems from shows like Pixar's Cars movies wherein the cars have faces. She generally has a hard time watching other movies but could do a marathon of the Cars movies. So, even though she was playing with stereotypically male toys, she played with them in a feminine manner, which I think is the essential part. I do not believe we should be surprised to find children above the age of two at least experimenting with opposite gender toys; it doesn't mean that that child is transgender as many parents unfortunately assume. Such as a time a mother thought her son was transgender because he showed some slight interest in a girly toy at McDonald's.

As of this writing, my nephew is only a small child; but he seems to act out his gender very much despite having no knowledge of gender. His preferred toys are not toys but tools such as a broomstick or the recycling bin or wires. Above all, he loves pressing buttons such as on the remote. He is very much, so a boy as boys love objects and tools. Like how Timmy Turner in "The Fairly OddParents," found out baby Poof was a boy because "boys love water guns."

These studies show once again that male and female genders are not a social construct but come from nature herself. There has never once been a transgender or non-binary gender infant for all of the thousands upon thousands of years. No infant has ever looked down at its genitals and cried about it. Humans are humans and not the unintelegent beast; we cannot merely change our sex like a clownfish whenever we want, our sex is eternal and unchanging.

When looking at the question of gender being a social construct or not, it would indeed all come back to the infant. When born, were we utterly neutral on all things, or did we have preferences specific to our assigned gender? If gender were a social construct, then the infant would have to be completely neutral on gender. The Norwegian documentary "Hjernevask," or "Brainwash" in English, had a section called "the Gender Equality Paradox." In it, a man discovers that although Norway is the freest country concerning gender roles, there still seems to be this large gap of interests between men and women. He traveled to Professor Trond Diseth, who studied to determine the gender of infants around nine months before they even knew what gender was. This test was mostly done to determine the gender of babies who had been born with ambiguous genitals. Diseth would place stereotypical male and female toys on the floor and see which toy the infant would crawl towards. He found that most boys would go towards boy toys and girls towards girl toys, suggesting that there is something biological. For anyone who is thinking about raising their child gender-neutral because they want their children to choose their gender, try this experiment. You will see that your child has already chosen his or her gender.

This reminds me of an episode in "Avatar: the Last Airbender," we see the air monks speaking with Aang and explaining to him how they knew he was the Avatar. They had Aang choose four toys out of thousands; the toys he chose were familiar to him because they resembled his past lives, though he didn't fully know why he chose them. So it is that the infant’s choosing of and the manner of playing with the toys reflects what gender they were in the premortal life.

In the same documentary, Simon Baron-Cohen of Trinity College, where Isaac Newton attended college, takes the biological gender idea to an earlier state to just born children. He found that when he held up something mechanical, the boys would look at the mechanism longer than the face, and the girls would look at the face longer than the mechanism. It makes sense to me, considering that girls seem to be more social than boys. They speak an average of 20,000 words per day compared to a measly 7000 words per day for men. According to science, this massive difference is because women possess greater oxytocin levels, called "language protein," than men. This difference between the sexes should be abundantly clear to anyone. I can hardly keep up in a conversation when the majority of persons in the room are women. When I have a family dinner, I notice a substantial drop in adrenaline levels whenever the men are left to themselves. Men seem to communicate better with action, and women appear to communicate better in words.

These studies show that the more testosterone a person has, the more likely that person will be interested in stereotypical male things. Likewise, the more estrogen a person has, the more feminine that person will be. Those with higher testosterone can have difficulty with things like empathy but have a much stronger interest in systems. According to Simon Baron-Cohen, one can predict an infant's interests by merely looking at their hormone levels.

In the documentary, it is found that the freer a person is, the more likely they are to pursue their personal interests. They will be more likely to follow along with their instincts, which leads to the most comfort. In contrast, a poor woman in a developing country may be more likely to get a job with computers or another typical male job because it is a job that will benefit her situation.

In the same documentary, Professor Anne Campbell, a psychologist at Durham University, teaches that gender roles did indeed come about as the best course of survival passed down through the gene pool. Women who would give birth to the children were given more empathy to help them be better mothers. Males who could not give birth were made stronger and were made to be more aggressive to protect their wives and children adequately. Professor Campbell asks what orchestrates those bodily differences, what is responsible for the production of hormones, and keeps everything going? The human brain is the answer that she gives. It does not make sense to say that testosterone and estrogen levels would affect our bodies but not our brains, the single most expensive and complex organ in the body.

A few things about boys and girls are social constructs such as blue being associated with boys and pink being associated with girls. When first invented, high heels were considered something very masculine but has since been turned into something very feminine. Funny enough is the fact that high heels may be better suited to the female anyway as a woman's foot has more of an arch to it.

At the end of the day, the same stays true that baby boys gravitate towards typical boy toys and baby girls towards usual girl toys. It is not the gender that is a social construct. But it could be, in some cases, to be transgender and non-binary, which is a social construct. Gender is indirectly linked to your biology; to say that gender is a social construct is comparative to saying that biology is a social construct.

At Harvard, there is a class called Math 55, which is claimed to be the most challenging undergraduate math class in the United States. Each year, around 50 students sign up for the course, but around half will drop out in just a few weeks. In 2006, the students who survived the class to the end were 45% Jewish, 18% Asian, 100% male. From what is understood, most students who do indeed pass the course are male, with few if any females.

Why is this? Is it that dreaded patriarchy? No. The truth is that when it comes to math, science, technology, and engineering, women just aren't as interested in these things as men. There have indeed been great women in all of these fields who achieved more than most of their male counterparts including such women as Ada Lovelace and Emmy Noether. In the mathematical areas, men are more likely to have a symmetrical cognitive profile, which means that when they do math, they are often not accompanied by many verbal expressions. But women who are gifted with math often do have a great talent in verbal expressions. But aside from these women in math, most women lean towards humanities, social sciences, and education. Most women prefer to work with people and other living creatures instead of dead robots and other objects.

Whenever I do see a transgender woman, I only see a male's failed interpretation of a female. I often see a man making himself an overly sexualized woman, often with a hooker sounding name and far too much makeup, but who still has masculine tendencies, sometimes and especially amplified aggression with violence. When I see a woman pretending to be a man, I just see a very feminine man who is too feminine to be a man: a man whose shoulders are too small and too wide of hips to look like a normal man, or just a woman with short hair who talks and acts like a woman. Transgender women are easy to pick out based on their broad shoulders and small hips which match the male more than the female, the shoulder to hip ratio is almost always a dead give away. Either way, their inner-self always shows their real self in their falsely perceived realities.

Gender is not merely about what is between your legs but between your ears and your ribs. So don't think that the chopping off of one body part will instantly turn you into the opposite sex. The soul reflects who you are; your birth body is just the outward manifestation of your soul.

Boys will be boys and girls will be girls, that's just the way it is. Men should be allowed to be rough and tough, and women should be allowed to be sweet and gentle. No one should be forbidden from emotions of any kind.

Scientists can determine an ancient person's gender by looking at their bone structure. They define a male by his broad shoulders, and they define a female by her wide hips. And so it is that in a couple of thousand years from now (if there is no photo, video, or written account surviving), scientists will not be able to determine who was a transgender and who was not. They will only be able to determine the sex that that person was born with.

To understand why some choose to be transgenders, consider Andy, a story about a little boy as told by Dr. Michelle Cretella:

"I had one little boy, a patient we'll call Andy. Between the ages of 3 and 5, he increasingly played with girls and stereotypical girl toys, and started saying he was a girl. I referred the parents and Andy to a therapist. Sometimes mental illness of a parent or abuse of the child are factors. But more commonly the child has misperceived family dynamics and internalized a false belief. In the middle of one session, Andy put down the toy truck, and held onto the Barbie, and said, 'Mommy and Daddy, you don't love me when I'm a boy.' What the therapist learned is that when Andy was 3, his sister with special needs was born.

"'She required significantly more of his parents' care and attention. Andy misperceived this as 'Mommy and Daddy love girls. If I want them to love me again, I have to be a girl.' With family therapy, Andy got better.

“Today, Andy's parents would be told something quite different. They would hear, 'This is who Andy really is. You must change his name, ensure that everyone treats him as a girl, or else he will commit suicide.' As Andy would approach puberty, the experts would put him on puberty blockers so that he could continue to impersonate a girl. … 'We don't need testing. No, we need to arrest his physical development now, or he'll commit suicide.' But this is not true. Instead, when supported in their (all children) biological sex through natural puberty, the vast majority of gender-confused children get better. Yet, we are chemically castrating gender-confused children with puberty blockers. Then we permanently sterilize many of them by adding cross-sex hormones. Cross-sex hormones are estrogen and testosterone. Those put young children at risk for heart disease, strokes, diabetes, cancers, and even the very emotional problems that experts claim to be preventing. … Let's be clear. To indoctrinate all children from preschool forward with the lie that they could be trapped in the wrong body disrupts the very foundation of a child's reality testing. If a child can't trust the reality of their physical bodies, who or what can they trust? Transgender ideology in school is psychological abuse that often leads to chemical castration, sterilization, and surgical mutilation. If that's not child abuse, ladies and gentlemen, what is?"

I once watched a short documentary in which a couple of intersex people talk about the many surgeries they have had to be more like their gender. They explain the exhaustion from having genital surgeries from birth onwards that was about one surgery a year throughout their entire childhood. When they were going into surgeries for about a whole summer, other kids were going to Yellowstone and playing sports. They suffered depression from confusion and fear of being bullied. They demand that these surgeries stop; they desire intersex infants to grow up and only then get the surgery so that it doesn't interfere with growth. If this is how intersex people view child genital surgery, why would we do such a thing to a child just because they think they are the opposite sex? What right does a person with an underdeveloped brain have in choosing to be transgender when they can’t even deside what toy they want most for christmas?

These intersex people can often be raised as the wrong sex, which causes even greater confusion and distress. An intersex person will usually find out their real sex around the time of puberty in the which they may then say that something has been wrong from birth, they would feel like a David Reimer. There are tests that doctors can perform on the child's chromosomes to determine the child's gender. An individual who has had definitive sex from birth and then attempts to live as the opposite sex disturbs an ideal foundation that they have already been on since birth; Regular sex people know who they are. It is the intersex people that need help in understanding their own identities.

I wish to ask all of the God-believing people out there, does it really seem to be in the all-powerful, all-knowing, and all-loving character of God to make the mistake of putting one gendered spirit in the opposite sex body? We are abusing the reality and foundation of where we are built. We scoff at God and mock his plan for us and our benefit by shouting, "NOT YOUR WILL, BUT MINE BE DONE!"

Consider now the tragic tale of David Reimer. In 1965, twins were born by the names of Bruce and Brian. There was also psychologist John Money, who had a desire to test the nature vs. nurture argument concerning gender. He wanted to prove that gender was indeed a social construct. Money saw his opportunity to prove his theory when he heard that Bruce Reimer had a botched circumcision. Money pushed the parents to have Bruce's penis completely removed and raise him as a girl, and so the parents conceded. Bruce was renamed Brenda and grew up with his twin brother Brian, playing with each other.

Brenda grew up feeling like something was wrong from the start and desired to play with his brother's toys instead of his girly toys. Things only got worse as Brenda was feeling out of place at school with a feeling of abandonment. Brenda was never told he was born male, only thinking that he was female from the start. And yet he was indeed proving Money wrong by showing more masculine qualities than feminine.

The twins had frequent visits with Money, where he would force them to do terrible things for his study. Money was so preoccupied with proving his theory correct that he forgot to consider if he should. He would force the twins to dry hump each other as he would attempt to teach how sex worked and why Brenda should enjoy being a girl. He would also take pictures of the twins wholly naked and have the twins inspect each other's crouches. Dr. Money would yell at them intensely if they did not comply with his ungodly demands. The parents of these two children didn't know what Money was doing to the boys.

As the twins came into puberty, Dr. Money would attempt to convince Brenda to have a surgery that would completely modify his body to female. Brenda was scared and didn't want such a thing to happen. Dr. Money had a transgender woman come in to convince Brenda that the surgery is not as bad as it sounds. Brenda now couldn't keep silent about what Money was making him do, so he told his parents everything and said that he would kill himself if he ever saw Dr. Money again. With shock and terror, the parents told Brenda the truth.

Brenda had his name changed to David and began living as a boy. He started to make friends who had once teased and bullied him. He had more confidence. He eventually had his penis reconstructed, took testosterone to counteract all the estrogen pills he was taking, and removed his breasts. He fell in love and was married to a woman who had three children.

All seemed well until it was discovered that Dr. Money had been lying to everyone that his experiment with the Reimer twins was a success. That gender was a social construct, Money told of how Brenda fully embraced being a girl. David and his brother Brian knew the truth, and they wanted to say to it that Money was lying. They told as many as they could about the truth about what happened with the experiment.

Brian became increasingly depressed as the boys' memories came flooding back into his memory. He overdosed on drugs and committed suicide. The pain was too hard to bear. David was mournful of his brother's death and became depressed himself. He ended up having a hard time finding a job and was having trouble with his marriage. David sawed off the end of a shotgun and took his own life at a grocery store. He died at age 38, May 2nd, 2004.

It's no secret that members of the LGBTQ+ community experience a tremendous amount of suicidal depression. Although most transgender people, or at least I hope most, don't go through what David went through. The things that hormone therapy does to the brain is too much for the brain to handle.

One article reads:

"Suicide attempts among women are more likely when estrogen and progesterone levels are low and attempts made under these conditions are associated with greater severity. "

For men, Healthline has an article which reads:

"Emotional changes. In addition to causing physical changes, having low levels of testosterone can affect you on an emotional level. ... Depression has been linked to men with low testosterone. This could result from a combination of the irritability, decreased sex drive, and fatigue that can come with low testosterone."

There has never been a record of a male brain being changed 100% into a female brain. Science has shown many times that men and women both think differently and have different brains. One needs merely to do a Google search on the inherent differences between men and women to know that there are indeed differences. Some brain scans show transgender people having a few characteristics of the brain of the opposite gender but never all of it; we can therefore say that no man has officially ever been born with an official 100% woman's brain. I'm sure that your hormone levels will determine what kind of brain you have; if you are a man with a good amount of estrogen, this doesn't prove you are a woman. If a man is born with enough estrogen to pass as a woman then she is not a man but is a woman.

Transgenderism can come about by an initial thought that the opposite sex has all the privilege, or they fear their own sex, or it is spawned by pure curiosity; most often, it is a sexual curiosity. A man may desire to become a woman so that he can have breasts to play with, he is so straight but also is so impatient that he just wants to be the object of his own affection. Then they doubt themselves and their own realities as they question their own circumstances—usually, the first step towards suicidal depression.

The most apparent depression comes from outside forces as these people are bombarded by death threats and abuses of all kinds. We cannot allow such abuse to occur; just because I disagree with LGBTQ+ people's thought process, it doesn't mean I will treat them like animals. They are children of God with great potential for good, they need to be loved.

According to studies, the suicide rate for transgender people is 41%. I am unsure if this is more internal or external, if due to bullying and harassment or not feeling comfortable in their own skin. As humans, we are unsure of how to deal with things that are unknown to us. For the transgender, I would do my best to see that person as still human and attempt to understand where the person is coming from.

In a USA Today article, we read:

"'The way we treat trans people, especially trans women, is terrible,' says Lampe, now a 24-year-old graduate student at the University of Louisville who identifies as a genderqueer and transgender. 'It's not surprising they don't feel they belong in the world.'

"That's borne out by the research, which shows those who are harassed, bullied, victimized, discriminated against or rejected by family and friends are more likely to attempt suicide. Some doctors and mental health experts say prevention begins with acceptance and kindness, especially by parents.

'The answer is love your kid as is,' says pediatrician Michelle Forcier of Rhode Island, an expert on transgender children on the faculty of Brown University's medical school. 'Your love and acceptance is the best medicine your kids can ever get.' "

LGBTQ+ persons of all kinds deserve the same freedoms and liberties as the regular straight person. In the United States of America, the constitution was intended for all persons regardless of sexuality or gender preferences. Queer persons deserve equal opportunities in housing; no one should be kicked out of their apartment just for being queer. And no college should kick out a queer just for having such thoughts; no employer should fire them or pass them up for a raise if deserved; they are still human after all. They should be able to vote and express their own opinions. Being queer certainly does not warrant the death penalty.

I think that I can appropriately say that I fully support LGBTQ+ rights as far as the United States written constitution goes. However, just because I support their rights, it doesn't mean I support the LGBTQ+ lifestyle.

Unfortunately, most doctors' solution for depressed children, who want to be the opposite sex, is to push them to transition to the opposite sex completely. Why? No doctor ever told a depressed child who really wants to drink alcohol to drink more alcohol. Would a doctor tell his or her suicidally depressed patient that the only solution is to commit suicide?

As a society, we disdain the actions of a child who wants to commit suicide or remove a limb. But sure, let's just go ahead and castrate our sons and give our daughters double mastectomy.

It is estimated that 70 to 80% of children who have transgender feelings eventually grow out of it, according to Dr. Paul McHugh, former head of psychiatry at Johns Hopkins University. It seems to be around the ages of 2 or 3 that children begin to feel somewhat drawn to the opposite sex. They become curious about what it would be like to be the opposite sex and so experiment. They are confused by what it means to be a boy or girl at this age, and their parents have a responsibility to teach them what it really means to be a boy or girl.

I recall that my cousin experienced something like this. When we would ask her if she was a boy or a girl, she would say cutely, "I'm a boy." We didn't think much of it at the time. But soon, she grew older, and she came to recognize the differences inherent between boys and girls and acknowledged herself to be a girl.

I don't think a little child who picks his nose and wipes it on the couch or a teen with raging out of control hormones and an underdeveloped brain should be making such a big decision as gender. If we allow a three-year-old to pick her gender, we will enable the gender to be nothing more than a child's play toy. But gender is so much more than that; it is unique and should be seen as sacred. If I had a son who said he wanted to be the opposite sex, then I would just ignore it and just allow the child to grow into himself. If my son demanded that he have the sex-change surgery, I would have a sit-down conversation with him. I would say that I wouldn't allow it until he was 18 and he could pay for his own surgery because I will not be paying for it.

We all must understand that no one is born actively homosexual or transgender. For such a reason, the X-Men are terrible role models; great movies, but terrible role models. The X-Men show humans who were born with supernatural abilities and congenital disabilities called mutants. They are rejected by most of society, which is how most LGBTQ+ persons feel and so they identify with the X-Men’s plyt. But unlike the X-Men, no one is born homosexual or transgender but instead becomes one. Some LGBTQ+ persons adopt the idea that they are born the way they are and that nothing can change them so society may as well accept them for who they are, but this is not the case.

The X-Men are better suited to be role models for those born with certain physical traits. When the X-Men were first created, it was for the black community with Professor X being inspired by Martin Luther King Jr., and Magneto being inspired by Malcolm X.

Some may say that these feelings held by LGBTQ+ persons are some kind of mental disorder that they are born with, and in many cases, that may be. But remember what Rachel Dawes said in the movie "Batman Begins," "It's not who you are underneath but what you do that defines you." A person may be born with homosexual feelings or become affiliated with the feelings of transgenderism, but these do not define them unless they allow them to.

Many people grow up having the desire for bloodshed and murder. Should we say to them, "We don't like you killing, but since you were born this way, then we will just accept it and allow you to murder"? Therefore, the mentality that we are born with our actions is just not acceptable. We are all born with certain feelings but we do not have to give in to those feelings and act on them.

The "born-this-way" argument does NOT advance the LGBTQ+ cause, according to Dr. Lisa Diamond. Is it wrong to discriminate against a black person because of the skin color he was born with? Of course, it is. But when this same argument is applied to the LGBTQ+ community, then it simply fails.

Lisa Diamond lists three problems with the “born this way” argument:

  1. It is not scientifically accurate. Lisa tracked 79 women over the course of fifteen years with different sexualities. What she found was that 70% of the women had changed their sexual orientation over that time. Some heterosexual women went homosexual, and some homosexuals turned heterosexual. Many of these women made claims that they once thought that sexual orientation was something fixed at birth. Sexual attractions show a fair amount of fluidity given enough time.

  2. It's not legally necessary. Because the "born-this-way" argument is not supported by science, the courts don't have any reason to listen. The constitution states that the equal protection clause states that we should not discriminate against individuals born with certain traits like skin color or retardedness. You were not born with your sexuality; it's something that you develop over time.

  3. It is unjust, and it needs to be retired. The "born this way" argument makes LGBTQ+ members look weak and defenseless as if they were born in chains to this thing called "queer." At this point, you might as well call it a disease or a mental disorder if you would continue saying that you were "born this way." Dr. Diamond tells the story about a young woman she met whose parents freaked out when they found out she was attracted to another young woman. The parents settled down after they heard a counselor say that she was just born this way. Sometime later, this young woman, who had been supposedly shown to be lesbian, started dating a man. She began hiding this from her parents because she thought her parents only accepted her for being lesbian. After all, they thought she couldn't help but be with other women. "That is not acceptance, and it's certainly not equality," says Dr. Diamond. Parents ought to love their children regardless of their sexual choices. She argues that sexuality should be no cause for concern when it comes to equality.

Based on what Dr. Lisa Diamond has shown, I'd say that it is clear that the majority of those who say that they are homosexual are acctually bisexual or can become bisexual. You can choose your sexuality, don't let it define who you are as a person.

When I first heard of the hit rock band "Queen", back when the first Rock Band video game came out, I was under the impression that Freddie Mercury was a 100% homosexual man with no feelings towards women of any kind. But when I first saw the trailer for his biopic "Bohemian Rhapsody," I noticed one shot of a woman intimately staring at Freddy and I became curious about who that woman was. Her name was Mary Austin; of course their relationship portrayed in the movie was overdramatized than in real life, but the relationship's fundamental essence remained the same.

They had fallen in love in the early stages of the band and then lived together for six years until Freddie proposed. He wrote a song about their love called "Love of My Life." But all plans fell apart when Freddie admitted that he might be bisexual. Mary didn't know what to say and just ended the relationship believing Freddie was utterly gay.

But Mary stuck by his side even until the end. Although they both went on to have many other relationships. Mary even gave birth to a few children and Freddie godfathered one of those children.

It is evident that if they did end up marrying, then Freddie may not have died of AIDS, and they could have lived a happy life together.

"All my lovers asked me why they couldn't replace Mary, but it's simply impossible," Mercury once said of Austin, "The only friend I've got is Mary, and I don't want anybody else. To me, she was my common-law wife. To me, it was a marriage."

When he died, he had Mary take his ashes and put them in a very special place that no one knows of. Not the band members nor his family, not even his many lovers, know where Mary put Freddie's ashes.

Never once was Freddie seen with other women, only with other men. It is almost as if Mary was the only woman he ever had any feelings for.

President Spencer W. Kimball taught: "'Soul mates' are fiction and an illusion; and while every young man and young woman will seek with all diligence and prayerfulness to find a mate with whom life can be most compatible and beautiful, yet it is certain that almost any good man and any good woman can have happiness and a successful marriage if both are willing to pay the price."

Freddie and Mary's story causes me to wonder if Spencer W. Kimball was wrong in his accusations. It makes me wonder if Freddie and Mary really were soulmates. Whichever one is the case, I still hold firm to this belief: No one is alone in this world. We all can fall in love and be loved back by a person though it may take some time to find that person. We must keep trying.

For those who say “love is love,” let me just say that how one loves and who can quickly be turned into something ugly. Where there are some who have sexual feelings towards members of their own sex, others have sexual feelings that are chaotic to the point of murder. Sex itself is not terribly too different from the act of killing; both actions traditionally involve sticking one thing in another person for pleasurable sensibilities. Never mind just the dangers of anal sex, there is a far deadlier form of sex. When a serial killer kills with no other motive than to simply kill, the victim is always associated with the killer’s sexual preferences. Often the murder involves rape. Consider Ted Bundy, who felt the need to kill women that he was sexually attracted to despite growing up in a proper home. There are even serial killers who feel sexually attracted to the very idea of having sex with a dead body, Bundy included.

They love the feeling of pleasure they get. But just because something triggers the pleasure center that isn't enough to make it right. There must be feelings of undying love and devotion unto the creation of new life. A serial killer may argue that he was born that way and cannot change himself, an argument most often used by those of the LGBTQ+ community. He would ask why we would fight against one whom God had created to be so. He would consider his murders to be beautiful and an act of love. Serial killer Ed Gein said that whenever he sees a pretty woman he is divided on wanting to treat her right on a nice date or kill her and put her head on a stick.

But for those of us who know how to control our sexual desires, we see this as madness. We recognize that such a person is only perplexed about his situation and has no will power to control his sexual desires. If any of us did allow our sexual desires to spiral out of control, we too would become like these men.

Yes, indeed, the link between sex and death is a strong one; one can quickly become the other, or the two become one. As is the connection between love and hate, which is why a couple which seemed so in love at first can suddenly end their relationship in divorce out of sheer hatred. Many couples become stuck in a middle ground of loving to hate or hating to love, or flip-flopping rapidly between them. Love is a dangerous thing if not handled well. Those who love most can easily be turned into those who hate the most. Like Anakin Skywalker, who hated so many because of how much he loved his wife, and in the end he was the cause of her death. Or consider the Uchiha clan from the Naruto series, they have what is called "the curse of hatred," the character Tobirama Senju explains why this is:

"The Senju Clan sought to triumph not through techniques, but through the power of love, whereas the Uchiha Clan valued the power of techniques above all. Or so it was often said, but the truth was very different. No clan feels love as deeply as the Uchiha. That is why they have always sealed it away. Once one of the Uchiha experiences love, you could say that it releases the emotions that had previously been bound within them. They awaken to a power of love that exceeds even that of the Senju. But therein lies the danger. Excessively strong love is capable of flying out of control. When one of the Uchiha knows love only to then lose those powerful feelings, he is taken over by even stronger hatred, and begins to transform. I have witnessed it so many times. He exhibits a special symptom. When an Uchiha is tormented by the loss of a great love, or by despair at who he has become, or something equally terrible, a special chakra flows through his brain, causing his nerves to respond and his eyes to be altered. Those are the eyes that reflect the heart…"

In the masterpiece of a video game, "NieR: Automata," we meet androids fighting a never-ending battle against alien machines on desolate earth. 2B and 9S are androids fighting in this battle. 9S appears to be new to the fight, and he attempts to get closer to 2B. Initially calling her "Ma'am," 2B requests that 9S call her by name. Later, 9S wants her to call him "Nines," saying that is what people who know him best call him, but 2B shrugs it off and just wants to call him 9S. Later, 2B accidentally calls him "Nines," as if suggesting she has feelings for him but shrugs it off immediately afterward.

At the end of the first playthrough, 9S becomes corrupted in battle after hacking a machine. The hard 2B suddenly becomes soft as she sees her companions' eyes glow red, indicating the corruption. He cannot be uploaded to the main base lest the whole system is corrupted, so he wants her to kill him. 2B gets on top of him and strangles him to death as she weeps; the act itself seems rather tender and possibly deliberately sexual. But 9S saved a slightly older version of himself in a machine just before the battle before the corruption, so he lived on. On the second playthrough, we live through the same events, but this time it's from 9S's perspective instead of 2B's; we find out that there was a time when the machines kidnapped him. One machine, Adam, pesters him and tells him, "You're thinking about how much you want to **** 2B, aren't you?" You might be thinking of the F-word, but you could also say the anonymous 4-letter word is just as likely to be "Kill."

We later learn that the reason why 2B has been so detached and emotionally cold towards 9S is she has known him far longer than he has known her. Every time 9S was corrupted from his hacking or became aware that the battle they fought was pointless because their human creators had been extinct for more than a thousand years, 2B was to be his executioner. Her knowledge made her want to avoid any intimate connection with 9S. It hurt her too much. And when 2B is corrupted herself and dies by the hands of another android, she all at once opens up to 9S, "Oh, Nines." 9S, for the rest of the game, is on the warpath, seeking to avenge the android woman he loved. Then he is faced with multiple 2B units who want to kill him; he shouts at them, "2B … 2B! Don't worry… I'm going to kill you now!" After the fight with the 2B units, 9S lies by one of them and puts her hand on his face. Even at the end, he still yearned for her affection despite the whole time being torn between wanting to kill or F*** her.

To be sexually stable, as well as having a stable gender, we need to meditate on these things and focus them on a point on what really matters in life. We must not be selfish; in fact, I think we should never be selfish in any case in these matters. These things, LGBT things, only benefit the self and not the society. No man ever turned to have sex with another man for the community's benefit, only himself. And no man ever made himself a woman for the benefit of society, for there are no benefits; he did it because he loved only himself. And above all, no man made himself a non-binary gender because he thought it would benefit society. After all, it doesn't. These people would be selfish even at the behest of the community, even if society crumbled around them.

From feminists wanting to be completely separate from men came the notion of widespread homosexuality. From widespread homosexuality came the idea that one gender does not truly matter, so both do not matter and is all an illusion that resulted in transgenderism. Now the idea came about that there is no such thing as just two genders or any gender or anything really. Reality to most now seems to be an illusion, and you can now identify as whatever the hell you want to, be it a non-existing gender or something that isn't even human. It is generally accepted by an unfortunate number in the world that there is an unlimited amount of genders; they claim there are no boundaries to gender, that gender is fluid and infinite. Tumblr lists 312 genders, 84 sexualities, and counting. These fake genders include but are not limited to:

  • Abimegender: a gender that is profound, deep, and infinite; meant to resemble when one mirror is reflecting into another mirror creating an infinite paradox

  • Adamasgender: a gender which refuses to be categorized

  • Aerogender: a gender that is influenced by your surroundings

  • Aesthetigender: a gender that is derived from an aesthetic; also known as videgender

  • Affectugender: a gender that is affected by mood swings

  • Agender: the feeling of no gender/absence of gender or neutral gender

  • Agenderflux: Being agender and having fluctuating feelings of masculinity of femininity, but not male or female


At this point in time, it seems as though a person can get away with being anything that he or she or it wants to be without any consequences. A man may now say he identifies as a woman, but on Monday and Friday, his stomach and left leg become male. However, when he wears blue shoes he is no gender at all. Many are just left confused about what gender even is to begin with, or is gender itself an illusion? Have we forgotten what gender is? Have we forgotten what sex is? Or do such things even matter to anyone anymore? Gender is not the same thing as personality. Personality is unlimited, not gender!

From the earliest days of humanity, the man gender came about as the best way for the male sex to operate in society, and the woman gender came about as the best way for the female sex to function in society for the benefit of humanity. And it was established so that the males contribute best to the present and the females to the future. Or as Steve Trevor put it to Diana from the film “Wonder Woman,” “I can save today, you can save the world.” The world being the future of mankind.

However, these alternate genders seem to only come about as a desire to be unique and stand out, which isn't a bad thing, but there seems to be no benefit for society. The alternate imaginary genders were not created to save today or save the world as the future of mankind, they exist only to save the self and no one else. We should be more concerned about an individual for society rather than the society for the individual.

What will be next? Will we have people identifying as different flavors of chips or as inanimate objects? Would we just allow anyone to rape anything? Are sex and gender no longer a thing of sacred significance?

I realize that it can be challenging for so many to simply stop acting on homosexual or transgender impulses to become a heterosexual cisgender people. Use reason, empathy, and love to establish connections. Ask why it is that they feel these feelings. We must be kind and understanding of the LGBTQ+ community and not force anything onto them. Many have concluded that it is impossible to change such impulses, but I know that it is still possible though it is hard. You are an agent unto yourself. Christ declared that the "truth shall set you free." A homosexual person may always have homosexual feelings, but he can learn to control those feelings and perhaps learn to at least be bisexual.

These days we have a middle-aged man who claims to identify as a 6-year-old girl. He left his wife and children to be adopted by an elderly couple. He claims that he now feels free to express himself and escape the responsibilities that come with fatherhood. What about his seven children? What about his wife? He just left them to themselves. His selfish desires left his children fatherless and his wife alone to take care of the seven kids. This is a man who cares more about his individualism and wants society to conform to him rather than conform to society. His boys need a good role model of pure manhood, and it was stripped from them without a second's notice. This father might have as well have been killed in a car wreck. If he had been killed in a car crash, then at least he would still be a perfect representation of manhood for his boys by having preserved his manhood unto the end. But alas, he has turned to selfish desires to be a little girl and destroyed his own manhood.

These are the types of fathers who cause their sons to do school shootings and other acts of violence because their father had abandoned them. In case you hadn't noticed, there is a boy crisis going on. Young boys don't know what it means to be a man because they don't have any good male role models to look up to. We need boys to be men to protect their families. Boys need to be able to run and play, to be rough and tough, and not be feminized in any way. We need good boys who will grow up to serve their countries with diligence and love for their friends and families.

19-year-old Anthony Sims was charged in the slaying of a West Oakland mother. His last Facebook post read, "I wish I had a father..." Warren Farrell observed, "… girls live in the same families, with the same family values, the same mental health problems, the same violence on TV, but our daughters are not doing the shootings. Our sons are."

Boys need both a father and a mother to civilize them, and a father needs to be the ultimate role model in his boys' life of great manhood. But most of all, children need a father:

"63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes (US Dept. Of Health/Census) – 5 times the average.

90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes – 32 times the average.

85% of all children who show behavior disorders come from fatherless homes – 20 times the average. (Center for Disease Control)

80% of rapists with anger problems come from fatherless homes –14 times the average. (Justice & Behavior, Vol 14, p. 403-26)

71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes – 9 times the average. (National Principals Association Report)

75% of all adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers come from fatherless homes – 10 times the average. (Rainbows for All God's Children)

70% of youths in state-operated institutions come from fatherless homes – 9 times the average. (U.S. Dept. of Justice, Sept. 1988)

85% of all youths in prison come from fatherless homes – 20 times the average. (Fulton Co. Georgia, Texas Dept. of Correction)"

"While the lying media in the US encourages confused young boys to take puberty blockers and chop their penises off to 'become girls,' China is moving hard to prevent a 'masculinity crisis.'" reads an article by Chris Menahan.

It would seem that China is recognizing the harsh truth of feminizing boys that they are starting to do the radical opposite and put the manly back into the man.

"A new school textbook that aims to teach boys how to be 'masculine' men has been released. Called 'Little Men,' the book covers the differences between boys and girls, the importance of the father-son relationship as well as the importance of interacting with nature and managing money. …

"In a study published last year, Zheng observed that Chinese experts have called for stronger 'gender-difference education,' arguing that ‘the crisis of masculinity in effeminate men is considered a peril to the security of the nation because it reflects powerlessness, inferiority, feminized passivity, and social deterioration reminiscent of the colonial past when China was defeated by the colonizing West.’

"Chinese media has portrayed the 'lack of manhood not only as a public menace and a threat to the family, but also as a metaphor for passive masculinity and national crisis,' she wrote. Distinctive gender roles and strong manhood were considered 'crucial in safeguarding the security of the nation,' she noted."

While the West is celebrating transgender women with beards, China refuses to allow any kind of femininity in its young men. While the US, Sweden, Britain, and other western countries continue to feminize their men, hyper-masculine China will have the most powerful army in the world, and none will be able to compare to them.

There is also a report of a man who removed his genitals and nipples and had a costly surgery to make his face look like a martian. He did this to be a genderless, sexless alien from mars who doesn't care to have his own children. How does he even know what a martian looks like? There are also trans-dragons, trans-giraffes, trans-cats, and just about any animal you can think of; it's called trans-species. Trans-species can only then lead to Beastiality. Next thing you know, there are going to be trans-objects and trans-plants all in an attempt to be unique, and in some cases, it is to escape responsibility; in all cases, it is for selfish individualism. They command that society reform to them rather than reforming to society. Can a 10-year-old now say that he is 21 years old to drink alcohol and see NC17 rated films? The age-old joke of "If you are (this person) then I'm the Queen of England" no longer seems applicable to this day and age. What is reality if I can just go around saying that I am an 83-year-old, 6 ft 5in, Chinese woman?

Welcome to the world of wrestling, a world filled with kayfabe. Kayfabe is a wrestling term that means taking the scripted plays in wrestling and carrying them outside the ring. That's right; the wrestling is fake, and whenever you see blood that is fake too. It is all a show for the viewer to consume so that the WWE can make more money by scripting out the events and making them more intense than if they had just let them play out like a football game. Kayfabe demands that if two wrestlers in the ring are scripted to hate each other, then they must continue to do so outside of the ring. This is why out of all the sports, the best actors come out of wrestling because they are already actors to begin with, like Andre the Giant, Dwayne Johnson, and Dave Bautista.

And so many celebrities and politicians have adopted this mindset to receive more attention than they could otherwise. Trump is the first president of the United States to employ such tactics fully. Many ordinary people adopt this mindset by scripting out false realities for themselves and others to watch on. Most of us have become what has been termed as Marks; a Mark is a person who loves what he is watching so much that he begins to believe that the lie is real.

"You can be dismayed with all of this for reasons that go deeper than taste. When everything becomes a story, the value of concrete truth seems diminished. There's too much going on in the world to dive this deep into something as frivolous as entertainment, you might say. Worse still, you can begin to treat politics — the hammer and forge of our national reality — as a similar form of 'show.' Sure, seeking out entertainment is a perfectly human impulse; it feels joyless to sharpen yourself into a hypervigilant instrument, ever ready to poke a hole in these swelling mythologies; we all know those people, who are no fun. But when we feel ourselves becoming too consumed with mastering the language of whatever unreality is currently holding our gaze, it might not hurt to consider the overarching forces subtly directing our attention and prepare ourselves to step back if we're not comfortable with benefiting less than they do.

"… If a story is told well, if its history seems consistent, then the machinations putting it into place can be temporarily overlooked or turned into a fun story of their own. And why not? In the end, we're all marks for a world we want to believe in." This, my friends, is how reality dies.

I am sure that this is not what most LGBTQ+ persons say their agenda is, but unfortunately, many of their actions have led to it.

Such things cause far too much confusion. In my earliest recollection of hearing about the LGBT community, I listened to a story about two men who turned themselves into women, they then met each other and married. Are these men turned women gay or straight? No one can give a straight answer; it merely is absolute madness. What are we to do with men who want to be women and the other way around?

THINK OF THE CHILDREN! I read a sticker on the back of a laptop that read, "protect trans kids," but I think it should be read, "protect kids from trans." They don't know what to do if their mommy suddenly became a daddy or the other way around. Most children freak out when only hearing that their parents are getting a divorce, but when the reasoning is because one parent wants to be the opposite sex, all of the child's reality seemingly goes out the window. How do you expect children to make any real sense of such things? Children already have to deal with a huge number of challenges. Don't overcomplicate their realities because it is fragile at such a young age at such a high price. Such a thing happened to Jo-Ann Roettengen, who talks about how such children can have feelings of isolation and inferiority and confusion. When one gender changes to another, it makes the child wonder if the first gender is inferior to the second. Roettengen explains that having a parent who turns trans can be likened to a parent who dies, and the child will often go through the five stages of grief, or seven in her case. First comes denial, then pain/guilt, anger, then bargaining, then depression, then reconstruction, and finally, acceptance. Indeed I would say that transitioning from one gender to the next is like killing your past self. Whenever Caitlyn Jenner talks about Bruce, it is almost like talking about an acquaintance who is now dead. As if he had to die only for Caitlyn to come out. Parents likewise have been shown to go through the steps of grief whenever their child transitions.

When it comes to gay parents' children, most studies conclude that those children generally can turn out just fine. There are, however, many who wonder about the missing parent of one gender or the other. There is an inner desire to seek out this lost part of themselves, of this parent who neglected their responsibility. They wonder about other families who practice the traditional way of family and have a mom and a dad. Some children may feel that emptiness inside swell up until they desire to know their missing parent. When homosexual parents use a sperm bank or a surrogate mother to conceive a child, that child may wonder why that one parent abandoned his/her responsibility to raise that child they helped create in the first place. The child may look into the mirror and wonder, "Neither of my moms or their parents have eyes like mine, so where did my eyes come from? Who was my father?" or they wonder, "Who was the woman who carried me for nine months and then abandoned me to my two dads?" These children will seek out their missing parents though they may not make direct contact. These feelings of emptiness can lead to severe anxiety and depression, sometimes accompanying substance abuse. It seems that children will want someone to fill that empty void of not having one parent or the other; they may go through grief stages. Still, if the one parent is not found, they will likely project that missing parent onto another adult outside of the core family. Their need for a mother will project onto their elementary school teacher, or their father will project onto their baseball coach.

As a child, consider your own parents; how much do you appreciate them? If you love them, then tell me what you feel about them? What would you do if you never knew one parent or the other? How different would your life be if you didn't have a father or didn't have a mother?

Of course, most children want to love and appreciate their parents at the end of the day, even if the parents turn themselves into grey blobs. Many children will want to support their parents' decisions. Unfortunately, when a child does not accept their LGBT parent, they often hold lifetime grudges towards their parent, and some won't forgive them beyond the grave. There doesn't seem to be much of any middle ground in most of these cases.

These children, these poor, confused souls, why would you make them so? These children are literally pushed into situations that leave them in vulnerable spots for sexual predators. Children are too young to be thinking about sex or sexuality. Any young child shouldn't even consider his sexuality until the age of sixteen. And yet we see many examples of parents taking their children to pride parades where they are beset by sexuality on all ends. They are confronted with naked men and women of all ages and sizes. Many others are dressed in yonic or phallic costumes with such images on signs and posters. There are phallic popsicles that your child could suck on and see others doing likewise. A lesbian couple once attended such a parade completely naked and stayed that way the entire weekend. Would you, the parent, subject your child to such vial and cruel depictions of sexuality and the human body? Would you have your child become addicted to pornography from such a young age?

There are such insulting parents out there. Some allow their children to participate in such disgusting activities. Some push for it. As soon as a child says, "mommy, I'm gay," the mother responds with, "oh, yes, you are" and pushes that child to act out on his sexual desires to pride herself without thought of what the child really wants. As soon as a little boy says, "Daddy, I was born in the wrong body. I'm really a girl", the perverted father says, "you're my little princess," and pushes the child to perform stripteases in front of grown men while dressed in drag. I heard of a young boy's story to showed a brief interest in a girl's toy at McDonald's, and the mother immediately assumed that the child was transgender. There are reports of drag queens going to elementary schools to shove such ideologies down young impressionable children's mouths. They sit and read children's books that talk about every LGBTQ+ ideology imaginable. They speak of sex as a casual everyday thing that small children should engage in every day. Some drag queens even wear devil's horns upon their heads just in case you forgot their true purpose in destroying your child with perverted thoughts.

Such was the case with Desmond. The child performed a striptease in front of a crowd of gay men while dressed in drag at the age of 11. The gay men tossed money Desmond's way as they all had perverted thoughts of pedophilia. Yes, that's right, homosexual rights has lead down a dark hole through transgender people and has arrived at pedophilia, incest, and even Beastiality.

Child drag queen, Nemis, 10, is photographed with an adult drag star who just so happens to be completely NUDE. The drag star was leaning sexually towards the child with a 'wow' expression on his face. WHAT THE HELL ARE THE PARENTS THINKING? Honestly, what is the hope for the child, what is the thought process to these expectations? Am I the only one who is severely disturbed by all of this?

Somehow, Good Morning America decided to have Desmond come on the show with many other drag queens. Many people were applauding and cheering for Desmond, but all I wanted to do was pluck my eyes out at the atrocity that I was witnessing. Desmond is reported to have been 'out' since kindergarten as his parents exposed him to all manner of filth the minute they falsely thought he would be gay. And so the 21st-century plague carries on as it spreads faster than rats in a kitchen.

If this is permitted to continue, then the next thing you will see in the next decade is casual child porn stars, casual incest porn, child prostitutes and strippers, and casual Beastiality porn. The dark web will be rendered useless as such things will rise to the surface to be seen and excepted as normal. The number one reason I hated the movie "blank check" was the scene in which an adult woman kisses a preteen boy on the lips, but now this will be a regular sight to see and not just found in bad cinema. Huff Post has put out an article titled "Incest should be legal, experts argue." CBN News put out an article titled "Scholar calls pedophilia 'an unchangeable sexual orientation' that should be accepted by society." And Science of Us has put out an article entitled "What it's like to date a horse." The signs of the times are everywhere.

Once sex was a special and sacred thing held in high regard by standards only to be employed between a man and woman who are lawfully wedded, our sex-obsessed culture has decided otherwise. Now we are told that sex is a regular commodity to be sold and traded for money. To be used in everyday life in front of everyone to see. Today some cultures say that sex is nothing special but a pleasurable thing to be done with anything you see, including but not limited to a garbage can. The Japanese festival of the iron phallus has become a breeding ground for such people, they wear it on their heads, and their children suck on popsicles shaped like phalluses to condition small children to give blow jobs.

Many are atheists because they think it is cruel for a god to flood the whole earth and kill everyone, but I say that the LGBTQ+ flood of the 21st century is far worse and far more damning as it corrupts the minds of young souls. Any person who flies a rainbow flag outside their home is unknowingly, or knowingly, supporting all this madness associated with living the LGBTQ+ lifestyle.

Many stories of people transitioning to the opposite gender seem to happen because of trauma; most often, it is sexual trauma. A man remembers his swim teacher repeatedly fondling him, so he wished to have his penis removed. Another man recalls having an alcoholic father who was often absent and a mother with mental health issues. A woman feels the male gaze's consistency as perverted as she wears a skirt to school and so wishes to remove herself from the male gaze by becoming a male so that she may wear pants to school instead.

A good amount of each desire the opposite sex simply because they feel life would be better as the opposite sex but soon begin to regret the transition in the first place. The regret possibly has nothing to do with a study that found transgender women on hormone therapy have a higher risk of strokes, blood clots, and heart attacks, but is something more internal. These stories are rarely told and often are overlooked, but they need to be heard.

I think it possible that a male will desire to be female for sexual purposes. Many male gamers choose to play as a female, if given the option, because of their sexual attraction to females. They would rather look at the back of a female than a male for the 20 hours or so that it takes to complete the game. And so it would make sense to me to suggest that some males transition to being females simply because of their sexual attraction to females. They would love to look down on a female body the rest of their lives than a male body to which they can fondle some breasts—possibly due to being rejected by females too many times.

What then should we do with the transgender people? What of those who want to enter into sports of the gender they claim to identify as? It is unfair to have a transgender or transexual woman compete in women's sports competitions as there is an unfair advantage having been born male. There is a reason we have separate sports for men and women; there is nothing sexist. It is to keep the playing field even; no cheaters are or should be allowed; on average, men are physically stronger and faster than women, so it would not be fair.

Let's examine Fallon Fox, a transgender woman MMA fighter. When put up against Tameka Brents, Fox pounded her and sent her to the hospital with a broken skull and a concussion that required seven staples. Brents said, "I've never felt so overpowered in my life." She could easily move around in other women's grips but struggled mightily with Fox.

Once a man was looked down upon as the lowest of the low when he hit a woman. Apparently, it is now okay for a man to hit a woman so long as the man identifies as a woman. Well, I guess this means that a man can now walk into a woman's gym locker room and peep in on women as long as he identifies as one; sounds like a perfect excuse for a rapist.

Women became afraid of Fox and often refused to fight Fox. Fox seemed unbeatable until one day; Fox finally lost to Ashlee Evans-Smith. Many people were delighted at Fox's defeat. However, some took this to mean that Fox doesn't have an unfair advantage over the other women and should be just fine to fight in the women's league. I watched some highlights of that fight and noticed that Fox did indeed have the superior strength to hold Evans-Smith longer than Evans-Smith could hold Fox. But Evans-Smith managed a way around and finally won. It was a terrible struggle, but she somehow managed to take down Fox. Just because women have less muscle mass than men, it doesn't mean that they are guaranteed to lose 100% of the time. But because the average woman has 40% less muscle mass than the average man, she must use strategy more than brute strength. Eventually, she can overcome her opponent if she strategizes well enough to hit those vital points. Suffice it to say we should still consider that Fox won far more often than she lost, an average woman she is not; she is far above the average to the point of having too much of an unfair advantage over the others. Truly a fox in the henhouse.

In many other sports, particularly in high school sports, girls are frustrated when a transgender person enters their competition. The boy pretending to be a girl will outrun them every time. There is almost no possible chance that a biological girl could keep up. If this continues, biological women will be sidelined as men come in and take over the sport that was rightfully theirs to begin with.

For a man to properly compete in a women's sports competition, he could try to take enough estrogen pills and testosterone blockers. But this can have severe mental and physical side effects and, in the process, would destroy his manhood, thus ruining his base identity. Even then, his genes would keep him from ever reaching the average level of a woman. He may become slightly weaker, but there will still be many women with which he will have an unfair advantage over. Hormone blockers appear not to be working quite as well as most would hope as trans athletes continue to dominate women's sports. From Wired, we read: "Transgender athletes are having a moment. At all levels of sport, they're stepping onto the podium and into the headlines. New Zealand weightlifter Laurel Hubbard won two gold medals at the Pacific Games, and college senior Cecé Telfer became the NCAA Division II national champion in the 400-meter run. Another senior, June Eastwood, has been instrumental to her cross-country team's success. At the high school level, Terry Miller won the girls' 200-meter dash at Connecticut's state open championship track meet."

Things have become so out of hand in which such extreme measures, such as House Bill 500 which was passed in Idaho, have been put in place to ensure an equal playing field. According to the bill, even a man who has been on hormone blockers for 12 months still has "an absolute advantage" over biological women. The bill sights another study which says, "The evidence is unequivocal that starting in puberty, in every sport except sailing, shooting, and riding, there will always be significant numbers of boys and men who would beat the best girls and women in head-to-head competition. Claims to the contrary are simply a denial of science," The bill further wants us to understand that biological differences between men and women "remain cause for celebration, but not for denigration of the members of either sex or for artificial constraints on an individual's opportunity,"

Women's sports came about for women to compete in sports, but now it is becoming in some schools that women's sports are no longer for women. These days in many nations, a man can compete in a woman's sports as long as he simply claims to be a woman. I think that the only solution to this problem is to make two exclusive transgender man and woman teams apart from the regular cisgender teams.

I do not doubt that there are women who are faster and more robust than some men. I am sure that plenty of women can compete on an even playing field as the average man, but they are in the vast minority. It must be taken into account that men and women have very different bodies with their own strengths and weaknesses. The strongest woman will never be as strong as the strongest man. What should we do, give out participation trophies just for being a girl? No, no one should feel limited in what they can do; neither should society impose limitations of any kind. We need more men and women who can break the 4-minute mile.

Or what of the bathroom, locker room, and bedroom situations? Where do we assign a transgender person? Unless married, Men and women are separate here again like in sports, it is nothing sexist to protect the women from sexual abuse by some men. Sexual relations are sacred, and just about every man cannot adequately control their sexual urges around women in various states of undress. We can't just pretend that gender or sex is fake because it is not. Separating men and women is not the same thing as when we separated bathrooms by race. Separating bathrooms by race was not necessary; there is no harm in a black man and a white man using the same bathroom unlike when men and women share the same bathroom. When a man gazes upon an undressed woman without being married to her, all the man thinks about is lust. His understanding of love becomes warped, and he can no longer think of anything else. His brain decays, and he becomes socially awkward and can't function right in society. It isn't segregation; it is protection for both the man and woman.

That man who stands next to that woman in the shower may seem nice; he may be doing his very best to be respectful and avoid anything perverted. But every man, even the best of us, cannot hold in his composure forever. Eventually, he will fall prey. He may even fall victim to a pornography addiction, which will be incredibly hard to break. There will be many men who cannot control themselves while naked with an unknown naked woman in the shower. He may hide cameras to catch the woman's naked body and put it on pornography websites all over. The woman takes on the form of an object and the man disintegrates into dust. While some men may be very genuine and keep themselves from lustful thoughts, I don't think it is a risk we should be willing to take. The same may also apply to the female's gaze of the male body or a gay gaze.

Most women would feel uncomfortable if a man just waltzed into their washroom. Their fight or flight mode kicks in. Unfortunately, most would change their tune if the man who walked in identified as a woman, almost in fear of being politically incorrect and offending the man dressed as a woman; what a brilliant idea for any rapists out there to catch the woman in her most vulnerable state of being. I don't even want to think about what would happen if we combined women's and men's prison; the result would be devastating, putting women into a position where they can be overpowered in such a way is a bad idea. Men get raped enough as it is already in prison, we don’t need to throw women into the mix.

The only answer to a rising demand to have gender-neutral bathrooms is to have single-use bathrooms in which every individual is guaranteed complete privacy and safety. For it is in bathrooms that an individual is at his or her most vulnerable.

Spencer W. Kimball taught that if you put a good boy and a good girl alone in a room long enough with nothing to do then they will eventually fall prey to their inner sexual and carnal desires. "… if … a boy and a girl… sit in the car late enough after the dance, or...park long enough in the dark at the end of the lane, the best boy and the best girl will finally succumb and fall."

For the 2019 national scout jamboree, the heads were aware of this problem of mixing boys and girls into the same camp for a whole week. Having to deal with the rise of persons demanding there is no difference between the genders, girls will be permitted to enter the Boy Scouts of America for the first time in scouting history. Therefore, they have announced that they will be handing out condoms to all the boys as if to say that they know the kids will fornicate, so they may as well make sure they do it safely. Youth as young as 13 years old will be given condoms and encouraged to have sex. "The advanced promotion and free distribution of condoms sends the message to scouts that 'We expect you to do this [be sexually active],'" Dr. Michelle Cretella told LifeSiteNews.

John Stemberger, chairman of the board of Trail Life USA, an alternative scouting organization, said it is "not clear how far down the rabbit hole the Boy Scouts will continue to fall."

A once-great organization that was made for the sole purpose of turning boys into great men is crumbling to the ground. As a young lad, I loved boy scouts and went on to do venturing; I was the first in my family for both my mother and father's side to become an Eagle Scout, and now it seems that now I am to be the last. I remembered how much fun I had at the 2010 Jamboree, the memories I made and the friends I made. I recall a movie I once saw called "the Last Eagle Scout," and now I feel that that has become me. Now every time I see my extensive merit badge collection I can not help but break down a little bit inside. In the movie "the Last Eagle Scout," society demanded the scouts close their doors, but the reality is much worse. BSA is crumbling from within and doing it to themselves.

"All of this should be deeply disturbing to the churches that are chartering Boy Scout Troops," Mr. Stemberger said in a statement posted to the Florida Family Policy Council website. "These policies present a clear youth protection problem that the BSA absolutely refuses to recognize. The fact that they are requiring that condoms be 'readily accessible' and are communicating this to everyone — including youth participants — shows that the BSA is both anticipating and facilitating sexual conduct between minors at this event. These policies are both outrageous and completely irresponsible."

To think that now at every Jamboree and perhaps even regular scouting trips, thousands of 13 year-olds will be having sex in the woods. There will now be thousands of fatherless children born to mothers who are too young for their own good, and there being thousands of abortions to perfectly good souls. The mental and psychological damage that will come upon these poor youth will be catastrophic, and the effects will be too significant to ignore, although society will try.

Apart from these things, what should we do about those who identify as non-binary? They have put forth many pronouns such as "they," "them," and "their" in conformity to their gender. How much more confusing can it get? The last time I checked the dictionary, "they," "them," and "their" were words that denote a plurality of persons, not one single person. Imagine those police officers who have to report to their higher authorities about a supposed multiple-man they pulled over. I will not play the pronoun game.

It reminds me of the Spider-man villain who was once a single man named Eddie Brock, but then is covered by a black goo symbiotic organism; the result is Venom, which refers to itself "we" and "our." If these non-binary people will so insist to me that they be referred to individually as "they," then it would make sense to me that they also should refer to themselves individually as "we" and "our." These non-binary people are so confused about their identity that they assume they are some in-between gender as if to say that inside their head are two clashing personalities, therefore do they say we should call them individually as "they."

Now there is another trend arising where people feel like different genders on different days, so they wear bracelets to tell people which pronouns they need to use. How do you avoid offending that person when you are talking about that person as a whole? Since when is gender related to feelings anyway. Facts have never cared about your feelings. I can't say I feel like the earth is flat because the world is, in fact, round. I can't say that only on Tuesdays I feel like a woman because I am, in fact, a man, always, all the time.

What are even the titles for a non-binary person? I can apparently get prosecuted for not using the right pronouns; I don't want to offend anyone using the wrong titles. Mother refers to a female parent and Father refers to a male parent; if this is so, then what is the title for a non-binary parent? Would I have to switch between mother, father, and whatever the non-binary parent title is based on what bracelet they are wearing daily? What about for the male and female titles of brother and sister, son and daughter, aunt and uncle, priest and priestess?


This confusion that is coming about is total unhinged chaos. The more confused the world becomes on who it is, the more chaotic the world shall become.

The idea of one gender not being important in an intimate relationship leads to the no gender binary concept, which leads to the idea of infinite genders. Then we are left with no genders at all and there would be no such thing as heterosexuality or homosexuality. Our individual realities crumble, and we wonder if we even exist at all or if we even have free will. The conscious self then seeks to align itself with anything that it can call its own reality; it is then subject to taking up the mantle of something that it is not. Gender confusion erodes any idea of self-identity.

It takes two to create another human, the sperm and the egg. Why would we think that there should ever be more than two that would make a child? These are indeed the genders, male and female. It is impossible to make a child with only two sperm or only two eggs. For the case of transgender persons, how could the sperm become an egg or the egg ever become the sperm? It can never happen.

There must be a careful balance of all things, and this includes some separation of things. With a world in unbalances, it becomes confusing when people just decide to be something that causes unnecessary and, at times, damaging society changes. People don't seem to know who they are anymore; they become so preoccupied with their own desires that they forget about God who watches over them. They become prideful, and in their pride, they think the heavens are silent, they conclude that there must not be some great and eternal plan for the human race.

Too much of modern literature and movies portray this confusion. They are unsure what is a woman and what is a man. They somehow think that in order for a woman to be on equal footing with man, she either must be like a man or say she is better than men by having the men play the role of the weak bumbling idiot. They write characters where a small seventeen-year-old girl can take down seven large men in a fist fight, ignoring the fact that this is unrealistic and damaging to young girls. Okay, you might have a female character who is an excellent fighter in her own right or say it is a fantasy novel, but when you completely ignore what makes her a female to begin with them that's troubling. It's these things that will only hurt. A woman shouldn't want to be like a man because she doesn't need to be a man; she shouldn't want to take on toxic masculine qualities of brutality. A woman must be wise in her approaches and evaluate both her weaknesses and strengths to get out of any situation.

A small seventeen-year-old girl easily defeating seven highly trained men is damaging mostly because it puts forth an overblown statement on feminism, saying that girls are better than boys. Many are convinced that the only way to make women equal to men then they must be like men, but then that's where you get some people who say there is no real difference between the genders.

The world will also, at times, portray the man as being weak, pathetic, and idiots only in an attempt to make the woman look cooler, but this is not necessary. Femininity is not a weakness; a woman does not need to be masculine and manly or brutal to be strong. She can be strong in her own right in her emotional wisdom, tender vulnerability, and nurturing nature.

One of the biggest fears I had when going to see "Wonder Woman" was that the filmmakers would make that same mistake so many others make in thinking that a strong woman is a masculine woman. But instead, I was presented with a very feminine woman who also just so happens to be a great fighter. I'm not talking about how she obviously carries around a makeup bag and hair curler to keep up her beauty, even though you don't see the bag. I am talking about how she retained her nurturing side. She wasn't afraid to speak up in a male-dominated world. She was excited when she saw a baby for the first time. She fights to save people and knows that only love can save the world. At the beginning of the movie, she leaves to enter man's world for duty-based reasons; she believed that killing Ares would stop the Great War. But after realizing that mankind is just making this war on their own, she realizes that all people have both good and evil in them; people can really suck. She is reminded of her mother's words, "the world does not deserve you." But after the man she loved sacrifices himself in a plane to stop bombs, she learns to love people. Mankind doesn't deserve to be saved by Wonder Woman, but she saves them anyways because of what's called care ethics. She says, "It's not about deserve. It's about what you believe, and I believe in love."

When making a strong female character, it doesn't suffice to take a man and pump him full of estrogen. A strong female character should be her own and not a man in disguise; otherwise, what was the point of making the character female to begin with? Such a character would be scientifically unrealistic. When It came to making the Wonder Woman theme for "Batman V Superman," Hans Zimmer knew it would be difficult for so many reasons. Brass has historically been associated with power, and strings have traditionally been associated with the damsel in distress. Most men played the hero, so brass was associated with masculinity. Damsels play the damsels, so strings have become synonymous with femininity. Hence, the heroic Superman theme features heavy brass, but the love scene with Lois is represented with strings. So how do you take a female superhero and make her sound powerful without sounding masculine? Zimmer's solution was to take a string instrument and make it electric. Zimmer was then able to keep the power and femininity together without the masculine brass.

Just because a woman enjoys some stereotypical male things such as trucks or fighting it doesn't mean that she is a man in a woman's body; it just means that she is a tomboy. Some people very much so feel this need to mix things up a bit and emulate some qualities of the opposite sex, which is fine as long as you retain who you are meant to be. If a boy absolutely needs to wear some light make up to satisfy that feminine itch he has to keep from completely turning into a girl, then so be it.

Unlike most female superheroes, Wonder Woman is not based on a preexisting male hero; there was no Wonder Man before her. Wonder Woman is a movie loved by many as it presents a woman who is her own. She doesn't say things like, "I'm not going to let a man take credit for a woman's job" or "I'm really tired of you telling me what I can't do." She knows what she can do. She has nothing to prove and just wants to save the world in her way. Any woman who thinks that she has to prove something has a long way to go before being as great as Wonder Woman. Any woman can be great on her own; she doesn't have to be like a man or compete with men to be equals with men. Any sex that depends on other's failure to succeed has not succeeded at all.

In the Disney animated film "Mulan," from 1998, we see a young woman who challenges social and gender norms when she faces a moment of crisis where she feels like for a moment that she is not meant to be a woman. After failing the manners test with the matchmaker to show how womanly she could be, she doubts herself and sings:

Look at me

I will never pass for a perfect bride

Or a perfect daughter

Can it be I'm not meant to play this part

Now I see

That if I were truly to be myself, I would break my family's heart

Who is that girl I see

Staring straight, back at me

Why is my reflection someone I don't know

Somehow I cannot hide

Who I am

Though I've tried

When will my reflection show who I am inside

When will my reflection show who I am inside

I wonder if this is the same internal monologue that every person considering transgenderism thinks about.

And with that, Mulan chopped off her hair and assumed the mantle of a man by taking her father's place in the army to fight the Huns. At every turn she failed at playing the part of a man. Though she did her best to overcome her physical limitations to compete with the men and show great skill. When it seemed she could not keep up with the men, she decided to do things her way. Previously none of the men were able to get an arrow sticking out of a tall, wooden pole with weights, but mulan decided to be smart and used the weights to hoist herself up to the top to get the arrow. She was smart and clever in a battle with the Huns, causing an avalanche with a rocket. But she was soon discovered and shamed.

When she found that the Huns were still alive and planned to assassinate the emperor, she knew she had to warn the men. But unfortunately, no one would listen to her cry but a few. She managed to stand firm against the Hun’s leader on top of the palace; what she lacked in physical strength, she made up for in courage and strategy. Disarming the Hun’s leaders sword, a symbol of masculinity, using a fan, a symbol of femininity. She defeated him, but she did not defeat him as a man, she defeated him as a woman, as her very true self. She thought she was meant to be a man, but her very true self ended up being merely a different kind of woman from what society had expected of her.

In the original story, Mulan is more accepted when her fellow soldiers found out that she was a woman. In taking joy in her gender, she then mounted up and rode into battle fully dressed as a woman; she rode as a beacon to all to live and be themselves and not live a lie. "These are the qualities we see in a good wife. These are the qualities we see in Mulan."

"I don't want to be the bad guy anymore," declared Wreck-It Ralph. He struggled with how to be himself in society, that being the video game world. His desire to be a good guy threw the system into chaos. He needed to learn to accept himself for what he was. He needed to put his talents to greater use.

When the game Sugar Rush was being overtaken by computer virus', Ralph drops from the sky, aiming to smash mementos into a giant coke volcano. The explosion may end up killing him, but it would save Sugar Rush from the virus'. He holds onto a heart-shaped cookie and says aloud, "I'm bad, that's good. I will never be good, and that's not bad. There's no one I'd rather be than me." He became a good bad guy. He was saved at the last minute and soon after returned to his original game to be the bad guy but with joy.

Perhaps this is how we should look at this situation. What society forces on us is often not what God gives us. Who we are is children of God. Perhaps being a man and being a woman is far more different for God than what it is to us. If we feel something is not right with ourselves, then I would say that you are right. But perhaps the world's solution is different from God's solution.

When it matters most in life, it would be best for all of us to say with Ralph, "there is no one I'd rather be than me." It is dangerous to assume we are something that we are not. If we lose ourselves, then we lose a sense of reality. We need a stable foundation to stand on if we are to take on the world. I am worried that if we teach the future generations to be neutral on all things, including gender, we will cause them to stand for nothing. In the end, just be yourself, because that is what society needs most.

I admire a woman who not only excels at being feminine but who takes the very concept and makes it her own. A male makes the best man, and a female makes the best woman. There ought to be no such thing as penis envy or womb envy. We should stand strong, being who we are, and love ourselves for who we are as divine beings.

What is a woman if a man can be a woman? She would be nothing at all. What is so special about being a woman if any man can be a woman? The answer is no man can be a woman; she is too select for anything else to be her. So be you because no one else can be you; this is what makes you special.

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